Wednesday, March 30, 2011
I did a post on my other blog about life if you care to read it too. I will post a link at the bottom of this page.
Death is only a release of spirit. We are made up of 3 components, mind, body & soul. I find some people feel that there loved one was taken too early. We really do not understand why it was there time. But we need to accept this person was not meant to be here any longer. Accidents happen for a reason, we were not meant to understand. Same with suicide. For some reason that person was tormented in there mind to the point the soul agreed to let them go. Our spirit/soul is like an observer. Using our body and mind to live. The soul is so strong it will almost always keep you here. But when It feels there is no chance of repair. It will have mercy on us and set us free.
If you can only think of them like the person who is suffering of cancer. There mind is in that much pain. Really we can not know till we are in there place, what the pain for either one of them is truly like. I have seen some people feel like the lost one was selfish. But it is us who are, because we can not understand there pain. We feel they chose to leave us. But we must accept it was just there time. They could no longer deal with the life they had.
I know for a fact our soul is very strong. It wants to stay in our body. It has a way of talking you out of your wish to leave. Or it just clearly says, "no!"
But when it agrees that this life is over, you then are allowed to pass on.
Getting mad at this person for leaving is a natural part of grieving. But you have to put your self in that persons foot steps. And accept mental illness is painful. You have to learn to accept the fact, they are now free of pain. And learn to be happy for them. Because this was the best choice for them. They truly had an incurable illness. It was mental rather that physical. I feel we should be happy for them. Because a life full of torment in the mind is no life at all.
I know you may not agree with me. But I know what it is like to want to leave. But I have a soul that teaches me to learn ways to get well. And maybe I can help other want to stay here too. But most of all I want to help those left here to understand and forgive those who have passed on. Free them of guilt so they can move on. Tell them it is ok. You understand now. So they can truly rest in peace.
I am not an expert on grief. But I am learning there are 7 levels of grief. We do not always experience them all.
But the key to peace of mind is the last stage, which is acceptance. Finally letting go, and be happy for them. You will then be free to move forward too.
link to my first post.