Saturday, January 29, 2011

The Art of being Wise - addiction

Wisdom can be defined as having common sense & good judgment.
Being wise can be defined as making due use of knowledge; discerning and judging soundly concerning what is true or false, proper or improper; choosing the best ends and the best means for accomplishing them.

For me it is an every day search , thanks to the internet. I learn and grow every day. I feel like I find so may Wow moments. I also have been completing one or 2 digital collages for my wisdom journal each day.
The best one so far is in the tab above under forever changing.  
But in keeping with this collage the point is knowing what to over look.
This is some times very hard. When you know that some one is doing something wrong. You have to analyze how to deal with them. Whether you are right or wrong to interfere with there decision. Or do you sit back and let them learn the hard way. Some people have to learn from the school of hard knocks. I have been there many times.

At this time my youngest daughter is enrolled in this class. And this has been part of the reason for my past year of silence. I am guilty of not knowing what to over look.
So I sat back and let her sink or swing. She has reached rock bottom. And yet has failed to learn the answer.
So I sat down with her Thursday night and made her analyze her past year. Asking what is the main reason that caused all of her problems. She finally saw it was addiction. Yet she continues on the same path. This is hard for me to over look. You have to change if you want your life to change. For her she is addicted to making the same choice over and over.
It is as simple as example " It is raining and I am always wet"  The only way to get dry is. GET OUT OF THE RAIN. Stay away from water and you will stay dry.

I made a list of things she needs to figure out. And told her plan each day for the next 30 days. Live as if this is all you have. Make the most of each moment. Pick how you want to remember your last 30 days.

2 comments:

  1. As a parent, I know this must be hard to deal with. I hope she takes your advice and tries to get it together...unfortunately, most people have to do it because they want to...I hope it all works out...

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  2. Also, it's easier said than done. My daughter is friends with an addict and he makes it for a while but he really doesn't want to stop as he enjoys his addictions!

    Don't give up, keep trying with your daughter.

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